Now, Im NOT opposed to Christianity but I have a question?

I saw a Christian music commercial and one song was about how amazing the love of jesus is. Im not saying I do or dont necessarily believe but I feel I give Jesus and God more credit than the average Christian(which I used to be). Whats so amazing about a love with so many conditions,many being ridiculous and being expected to have faith on something that cant be proven and if these conditions arent filled out you burn for eternity? Hows that for forgiveness and unconditional love and mercy? Near everything is a "sin". And isnt it egocentrical to say" Believe me to be the best or youll spend eternity in a fire with demons"? Sounds kind of dramatic to me. I dont have the fear of God in me. I dont need to fear God because I am moral and overall ethical. I know he's fair and not so judgemental. I know s,drinkers,and gluttons and are deserving to a happy afterlife. You cant pick whats ok and not like pro choice catholics